Im desperately in need of advice, urgent, please read carefully?

Right, what has happened cannot be changed, its done, so you now need to concentrate on what has to be done now, Im sorry to say but once these parasites get you into the system you and baby will be doomed if you do not play their games by their rules. i have had to have dealing with them in the past so my advice to you is this, do everything they want you to, ask for their advice(they get off on it!), always try to agree with them even though you will be mad as hell inside, NEVER show them you are angry or raise your voice, treat them like the gods they think they are, after a year or less they should loosen the grip, play the long game with them, you can still see your partner if you wish, as i did, but do it in secret. Hope this was helpful and i wish you luck in your removeal of these parasites.